Cana Dream Team

I struggle with people giving me compliments - they make me feel funny!  I am not sure why, but when someone says something nice about me, I have an instinctive reaction to be dismissive about whatever they commented about.  I say things like “this old thing”, or “it’s not a big deal”, or I will fidget and feel weird. I have noticed others doing this also.. Why do we do this?   In the last week, a friend of mine had this same conversation.  She also has a “compliments complex.” I have decided that it is just easier to believe the bad about ourselves.  Even about our clothes! Instead of the one nice thing that person said about us, we choose to think that person doesn’t know what they are talking about, even though they just saw you with their own eyes and said you looked nice.  We have decided this person wants something from us.. Which may be true, but they could still think you look nice!!! The compliment is a good thing, but we treat it like it’...

The word Righteous has been sticking in my head… I watch that show “Adam Probably Saves the World” (which I LOVE!).  The show is the only place I’ve heard the word anywhere else besides church, that I could recall. I heard “You self righteous SOB!!!” before but I am pretty sure that was not the way righteous was supposed to be used.. I’ve heard about righteousness at church for sure!!  But that’s really about it. I thought righteousness or being a righteous person was something difficult to obtain.  I thought righteousness was something earned. I thought pretty much only nuns were righteous.  And pastors, preachers, and Mother Teresa are all righteous, but not little ol me! Shoot, I evict people from their homes on a regular basis with my job!  How in the world am I going to become a righteous person?!?!? I decided to look up the word RIGHTEOUS! According to Merriam-Webster, Rig...

From a person that didn’t really grow up in church and never really felt the guilt about not going, church was kinda blah for me..Church felt weird.  Me being at church was odd at best! It was also awkward and uncomfortable if you asked me. But then God told me to go so I had to go…My “My Walk” story describes the experience I had with God telling me at 3am to go to church. So I went and it was weird.  But it was weird because I was weird. I made it awkward, uncomfortable, judgemental, and constricting. Looking at it now I realize I decided to feel standoffish. I decided to be guarded and put my skeptic radar on full alert.  I was the weird one. All those happy people.. what are they so happy about anyway!?!  Why are they grinning and saying Good morning! I tried to blend in as best I could because really, what was I doing there?  Me? I didn’t do church.. this wasn’t part of my Sunday. I was normally in my jammies drinking coffee and watchi...

If you are a control freak or are a recovering control freak this phrase can help you!!  That’s not my circle… I went to a woman’s day event and Susan Goss, one of the speakers, spoke about “That’s Not My Circle.” What that means is you only have control over what is in your circle.  You only have the ability to be frustrated with what is in your circle. You are only stressed by what is in your circle. YOU CAN ONLY CONTROL WHAT IS IN YOUR CIRCLE! She explained how to practice this by asking everyone to draw a circle around yourself…”that’s it’s darlin that’s all you can control..  Nope, not your kids! Nope, not your husband!! Not your boyfriend!! Not your job, not your boss, no one except the one in the circle. Which is you!” She said. What she went on to explain is that everything outside of that circle was God’s business and not my business. In my head I say “My momma has been telling me for years to mind my own business!! Now you too…”. She exp...

Recently my husband and I went on a weekend getaway to Boulder, Co and it was so awesome!!! One of the items I mentioned I wanted to do was shop for a pair of duck boots.  I really wanted a mid calf height with some fur or something.. that’s the description I mentioned to Rusty. The day we landed, we arrived early because we didn’t have a lot of time! We picked the earliest flight possible and had a rental car lined up first thing!  We wanted to make as much of our time away as possible since we don’t have much alone time! We went to one mall and entered a Dicks and found the pair of binoculars Rusty was just saying he needed.. then we had to wait outside of Nordstrom because it was too early.. Y’all I love Nordstrom, but I rarely visit the store.  I think this is the first time in 5 years—since I had kids for sure—that I entered looking only for me… My grandma taught me about shoe shopping at Nordstrom many, many years ago… she told me about the amazing cust...

Can you find the joy in your day?  Can you find the happy spot in your day?  When you ask your kids about their day, do they tell you the negative or positive stuff? I realized there was joy missing from my daughter's life and she is only 5!!  When I asked her about her day, all she would tell me about was who got in trouble….or who made her mad…  One day after I noticed the pattern I said “did anything good happy today?” And she said “nope.” Houston WE HAVE A PROBLEM!  I said “hold on nothing good happened today?!?” She looks at me like I’m crazy “no momma! Nothing!” I say “hold on baby, someone had to make you laugh? Somebody did something funny today!!” She says “nope…” with a look that says can we please turn on the tv now…… I ponder this for a few days….I ask God about this….  I wait…... I hear a little voice that says “thank me every night for 3 good things..” That night at bedtime I said “let's pray tonight and thank God for 3...

Why is life so hard?  If there is a God and he is in control of everything and anything, then why is life so hard?  Why do bad things happen? Because Eve ate the apple and fed it to Adam.   We had it all perfect up until then.. And with food of course!!  That is probably why I struggle with the cosmic brownies as much as I do!   Then after a long time of watching us be terrible people God sent Jesus, his ONLY SON, to die a miserable death for us….Why, you say?  Because he loved us and did not want heaven without us. Just because Jesus died doesn’t change the fact that it is still a “fallen world”.  It just means that our debt has been paid, and we can ask for forgiveness and be forgiven for whatever it is… we may still have people mad at us or even have to be in jail for our sin, but you can still go to heaven!   The reason the bad stuff happens is so you can be the person God wants you to be.  That annoying person at...

Grow on purpose.  It’s a statement that changed my life.  My pastor started a series called Grow On Purpose.  The series was to help bring you closer to God. It was to help you live an intentional life.  I have since started living an intentional life in an everyday, not packing up and selling all my shoes/stuff kinda way! My life has gone from looking great on the outside and feeling suffocated on the inside, to looking even better on the outside and feeling way better on the inside too.  No, I am not 100% different, but I am different and I choose to hang on to that! What does growing on purpose look like? Well for me it was slow, like a snail at first, until I stopped fighting it so hard.  Once I realized I was not in charge of my day--NOT REALLY--everything became easier! But before I came to that realization I changed a few things in my daily routine.  Instead of waking up late, I wake up early and listen to something positive. I have...